Are you struggling in your relationship and looking for a quick solution? Perhaps your marriage feels like it’s going downhill, leaving you feeling sad and disappointed in your partner. Maybe things have become stale or distant, causing you to feel like leaving altogether. However, breaking up is not something you want to do, and you don’t want to risk disturbing your family life.
Well, there’s good news! According to the famous psychologist William James, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” Therefore, the best way to improve your relationship quickly is by adopting a simple hack – the power of appreciation!
Rather than focusing on your partner’s flaws, start seeing them through a “glass half-full” perspective. Happy couples tend to appreciate each other’s positives, rather than their negatives. By doing so, they enjoy their lives together more than those who focus on what’s wrong. Appreciation is based on how healthy partners act, and it’s the most powerful strategy in relationships.
However, it may be difficult to appreciate your partner when you’re feeling upset. If your partner is being clueless or mean, you may be dealing with feelings of rejection, loneliness, disappointment, abandonment, or emotional abuse. In such cases, it’s important to seek help from trained professionals, such as therapists or counselors who specialize in abuse.
For the time being, set your negativity aside for just a few minutes each day this week. Take a break from being right and focus on yourself. Studies show that healthy couples practice appreciation, which leads to gratefulness. Answer key questions to harness the super magic of appreciation and gratitude. For example, which of your partner’s qualities did you fall in love with? What value do they bring to your life?
Try imagining what loss would be like if your relationship fell apart and your partner married someone else. Engage in self-reflection about what you would be most envious or jealous of. This exercise will provide you with perspective and a deeper appreciation of your partner.
Finally, set up a day of love as if tomorrow is the last day you’ll ever have with your partner. Greet them in the morning, spend quality time together, make love, and enjoy romantic meals together. As much as possible, try and follow through on your ideas and have a beautiful day of love.
While appreciation is a powerful tool, it may not solve all relationship issues. Communication, compromise, and working together to overcome problems are also necessary for a healthy relationship. By incorporating appreciation into your daily life, however, you can improve your relationship and create a happier life together with your partner.